How to unstick your stuck words

Overcoming writers block
According to wikipedia, writer’s block is a condition in which an author loses the ability to produce new work. The condition varies widely in intensity. It can be trivial, a temporary difficulty in dealing with the task at hand. At the other extreme, some “blocked” writers have been unable to work for years on end, and some have even abandoned their careers.

If you write, you’ve been there. You’ve stared at the computer screen, closed your eyes and pleaded for something — anything — to reignite your creativity and get your fingers flying across the keys.

Call is fear. Call if doubt. Call it distraction. Whatever it is, get used to it. It’s all part of being a writer.

So what can you do to get “unstuck”?

  • Write every day. Establish a routine. Park yourself in the chair and show up.
  • Stop thinking so much. Don’t worry about whether it’s good or not. Just write.
  • Think about writing as a “regular” job. You’re on the clock, so work.
  • Give yourself breaks.
  • Take a writing workshop or attend a writer’s retreat.
  • Set deadlines and goals. Reward yourself when you meet them.
  • Write about a “true” experience. Just write it down. It’s a good way to exercise your writing muscles.

Looking for more tips on getting “unstuck”? Check out this great post I found this morning on Write it Sideways.

If you’ve found a way to break through your writer’s block, share it here!

image: Drew Coffman

A message from Norman Mailer.

“If you tell yourself you are going to be at your desk tomorrow, you are by that declaration asking your unconscious to prepare the material. You are, in effect, contracting to pick up such valuables at a given time. Count on me, you are saying to a few forces below: I will be there to write.” ~ Norman Mailer

Writer’s Retreats, Workshops, and More!

There are writing workshops, writing conferences and writing retreats. So how do you know which is the best for you?

Long answer short: All of them.

At different times of the writing life, you will reap benefits from attending all three of these functions.

Let me break it down for you. * insert funky hiphop music here*

THE WRITING WORKSHOP
writing exercisesThis program can start as early as elementary school. Sure, at this age, you may be more into writing love letters to the cute boy who sits behind you, or, if you’re like me, hate letters to the dork who threw mud at you in the playground and ruined your white blouse, but… Mrs. Garbus knew what she was doing when she instituted an interdisciplinary writing technique which can build students’ fluency in writing through continuous, repeated exposure to the process of writing.

And I don’t mean staying after class and writing 600 times, “I will not laugh when someone wets their pants in science class.” But, yeah, I had that punishment way too many times, and as a result, I’m a very fast, yet sloppy writer to this day.

Adult writing workshops will give you writing time, as well as social and lecture time. Most of the attendees are there to work with a particular professional. A wise workshopper will attend not only to showcase existing work and add to works in progress, but also network with peers and have one’s work read and seen by industry pros who can help you get a leg up…or at the very least… a foot over the transom.

Workshops can be found as online courses, offered through community schools, colleges, literary magazines, publishers and even writers clubs. Generally one or more professional writers/authors/poets and or screenwriters are brought in and attendees are charged a fee to attend. It generally lasts one to two days, possibly a week.

Sometimes new writers get discovered at workshops like these:

THE WRITING CONFERENCE
This type of program is generally longer, and more social or lecture based than the workshop. You may not have any writing time at all, unless you skip the nights in the bar and at least a few of the daytime readings. But if you do either of those things, you won’t reap what you came to sow. And that’s connections.

Alan AldaThe conferences I’ve been to are about running and gunning 24 hours a day. You may catch the tail end of Robert Olen Butler’s reading because you were in another room listening to Dennis Lehane but trust me, he didn’t even notice you slip out the back of his crowded to capacity and then some space. You’ll pitch agents over cocktails, introduce yourself to editors at breakfast and if you’re lucky, get stuck in the elevator with a famous bigshot author, whose book you just happen to be reading. Yep.

Preparation is huge at these conferences. I have taken 4 days to map out the who, what, when and where of a big time event. Your phone and planner, and a few cheat sheets are a must. Nothing says amateur more than forgetting the name of the main character in the novel the author onstage is talking about. Even worse if you mispronounce the author’s name.

Do your homework. Prepare your pitch. Learn a few jokes and have some current industry knowledge… more than who’s sleeping with whom… because we all know how fast that can change.

  • For Writers and Writing Professionals, The annual AWP Conference is the ultimate gig, whether you’re a guest, hosting or sitting on a panel, or merely attending, this is one bad boy of a conference.
  • Webdelsol puts on the well repected and well attended Algonkian Writers Conferences, all over the US.

Many conferences are area specific, drawing on local talent. This is a great, inexpensive way to get your feet wet.

Some of my favorites, now that the Maui Conference and Southampton are kaput include:

Check your local colleges and become a member of a local writers club, discounts may apply.

THE WRITERS RETREAT
Some people cannot really write at home. There are too many distractions: phones, doorbells, TV, kids, laundry, Ebay auctions and the distant cry of the cookie that will not be denied.

For these writers, the solution is a retreat.

This may take the form of a solo trip to the mountains and two days alone in a rustic cabin, or perhaps a month in France with a group of creative strangers and no Internet. Or, for some of us, it’s the combination of unique locale and writing friends who know just how to motivate you.

Your retreat is an individual choice, and as you grow in your career your needs will change, so never say never to a retreat option.

I suggest you try them all.

I have kicked everyone out and made my own home retreat, have driven to a resort in the mountains and written for 2 days alone, have rented a cheesy hotel room and snuck off with a writing partner for 2 nights, have traveled to the Florida coast, solo and with groups to stare at blue, blue water and let my mind create a place a reader will one day become just as blissfully lost to reality.

If you need some retreat ideas, there are a few places listed below, but understand this. A retreat means doing the work. Whether that is the mental part of figuring out where the story is going, or what’s not working, or the pounding out of a rough draft, your retreat is from society and distractions… not from the page.

Be sure you don’t make your retreat about shopping or visiting relatives… of course, you need to eat, and some downtime is expected, but for the most part this is dedicated butt in the chair time.

Listen to that little voice in your head. You owe it to yourself to escape- at least once a year.

Read more about workshops, conferences and retreats:

And of course, you can retreat with other women writers at Write By the Water ( a favorite of mine, of course!)

Don’t miss out on an opportunity to share time and space with other writers. It’s an experience that will not only provide you with the dedicated time to work on your craft, but you’ll come away with new friends and connections that will prove invaluable in your writing journey!

Have you attended a retreat or workshop? If so, we’d love to hear about it.

photo: Witheyes

Santa Rosa Beach Writers Retreat: Day Four

The highlight of the day, according to our group of writers, was the Skype call with Josh Getzler, literary agent at Russell and Volkening. Having an opportunity to talk face-to-face (okay, face to computer?) with a New York agent is one of the big perks of the retreat. Anyone who’s ever been to a conference or workshop knows that the age-old question on the tongues of every writer in the room is this: “How do you find an agent?”

Josh was awesome. He shared the process for querying an agent and gave our writers some insight into the business side of writing. Valuable information that I know all the writers will tuck away until they are ready to release their finished work into the world.

Writer's writing at the beach

Writer's writing

[/caption]The afternoon was spent writing. Writers walked on the beach. Writers hung out on the back porch and lounged next to the pool with laptops propped up, fingers flying across the keys.

This last full day of the retreat went by far too quickly. Dinner at The Red Bar – with good food, music, and more Canadians — and the day came to a close. It will be hard to say good-bye to our writers — our new friends. Facebook friend requests have been sent, and photos have been tagged. Business cards have been exchanged and websites have been linked…surely we will find a way to stay connected.

You know what they say…”You always remember your first.”

Santa Rosa Beach Writers Retreat: Day Three

Day three of the Write by the Water writers retreat started with a morning talk with Jack, and then the group went their separate ways to work on writing projects. Some printed their pages and took them to the beach where the sound of the waves caressing the shoreline provided the perfect background, while others stretched out on the living room couch with their laptop.

Jack Riggs at Sundog bookWe gathered back at the house early afternoon and headed over to SunDog Books at Seaside for the scheduled book signing and reading.

Jack read from The Fireman’s Wife; Martha Payne read from her book Put Him In Coach; Linda Spear read from her novel I Know You By Heart and Colleen Friesen read from her work-in-progress.

Seaside is the town that was the backdrop for “The Truman Show,” a movie about a man who lived his life on the set of a TV show.

After a quick lunch at Pickles Beachside Grill, it was back to the house for some quiet writing time.

Brett the lifesaver
Jack and Nicole ventured off to the beach for their one-on-one writer’s chat, and hours later they showed up at the door with Brett, the random stranger-turned-hero who brought the pair home after they ventured too far from “home” and couldn’t find their way back. Grateful to have our friend re-join us at the beach house, safe and sound, we loaded Brett-the-lifesaver (according to Jack…who could be exaggerating slightly — he’s a writer, after all and lies for a living) down with books before sending him on his way.

Dinner with Write by the Water retreatersColleen made dinner for the group: Spagetti, garlic bread, and an incredible salad (see the “weirdest thing of the day” below). Our bellies full, we spent the rest of the evening chatting, listening to Jack play the guitar and sing old country songs (okay, old to some of us…), and even managed to squeeze in a round of Win, Lose or Draw before finally calling it a day.

A lively end to a perfectly perfect writing day.

Weirdest thing of the day (WTOD)
Today’s WTOD is not so much a “thing” but the “weirdest thing overheard at the Write by the Water writers retreat.

“Damn it, I just can’t eat blurry food!”